No Love

I was surprised by the amount of love there wasn't in the book. I feel like the only way the people in the tribe showed love was by beating and being mean to the people they cared about. I feel like the men wanted to be respected more than anything else, and would use fear and pain to achieve the level of respect they wanted. Okonkwo was constantly beating his wives or yelling at his children, but then the narrator would describe that Okonkwo was doing it in the person's best interest. Okonkwo is described as caring about Nwoye, but is constantly yelling and criticizing him. Okonkwo worries that his son will be lazy like Okonkwo's father, but how does Okonkwo deal with that? He yells and beats Nwoye. Okonkwo is also disrespectful and violent towards his wives. I understand that Okonkwo probably didn't marry them because he loved them, but more because it is culture in the tribe to have wives, but he is still so cruel to them. Even if he isn't cruel to them I still don't see very many instances where he is kind to them.